As a volunteer para-counsellor I give you my 007 cents worth of thought. Personal emotion and love is subjective. As you said..no matter how he sneezed into your face, it is better than someone's kisses. Love has lost its sensation by the way you described it!
When that happens, the very sweet tender love you envisage and yearn all the time just come in sensational sneezes, where is the romantic craving anymore?...Definitely, something is very wrong. No man is an island nor a woman a stream !
When relationship sours, the emotional attachment will still lingers on and on, at least for a couple of months before one takes stock of oneself and really return to face the reality of.. hey! I need to move on, not dwelling in self-pity.
The letting go part will be a lot harder. Each night, you will just stay awake to fantasize the sensuous moments to moments. The ecstasy of love's intimacy! When love turns to hate, nothing can justify one's agony of reject, of breakup, of desolation, of emptiness. Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn and emotional sadness of lost love !!
At this juncture, it is self-over-emotional hate. Nothing is easy when the fallout is that 'heart-shattering' and 'heart-breaking' especially it is a 'recurrence' of another break-up. The death of emotional entanglement !
" Love may be a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined that it is inconceivable that you should ever part." - Sir John Betjeman; English poet.
Take a hold on yourself at this most vulnerable moment. As a lady, your weakness in love will always be the joy of lustful men. Men never lose out on love, only women. Please stay rational and calm.
The true sadness of life is not you lose your love. The true sadness of life is when you lose your soul to the devils and forever regret that love is never a splendour thing ! You become a playmate.
To all the girls I love before..and many walk out from the door - Julio Iglesias...(Ber..you sent me this punchline from Dubai!)....
patrick lee song juan
(A comment to a Facebook lady, lamenting her
breakup and still cannot 'let go' the hatred of
her love to him.)